Word energy is as powerful as any drug, poison or aphrodisiac. Words carry intention—they can heal a heart or kill a spirit. Words create a life from the spirit outward. Self talk is self creation. Words shape lives. They shape viewpoints. Words chisel and sculpt. Words influence a person and who that person becomes. Should the words ingested be lies, those lies will erode away personal power by distorting perception, destroying intuition, and crushing inherent abilities waiting to be developed.
If an abuse victim’s words are silenced and destroyed, the person is destroyed. Without any possibility for meaningful resolution, the unrelenting energy of suppressed violence turns inward and festers until it manifests itself in all manner of disease and destructive behavior. In Forget About Heaven, my mother, Mary Patricia, precisely and powerfully chronicles her battle to at long last claim her life and freedom after her death, and to recover the words stolen from her through acts of physical and sexual violence. Mary Patricia had to free herself. Physical death does not release a victim of violence from tackling the basic evolutionary task of soul liberation.
No victim of violence is exempt from the work of achieving resonant, deep-down relief from their trauma that ultimately will earn them emotional and psychological freedom. Even though victims of violence may not realize that this necessary freedom is available to them—actually required of them—the need for freedom eventually becomes too intense to be ignored. This call to action is a fundamental element of growth: a naturally embedded, fierce impulse of the soul to push its evolution forward.
Through the process of cultivating self love and allowing that love to nurture her, Mary Patricia developed the courage to identify the pain she was unaware she was suffering and confront its origins. By connecting accurate, tough words precisely to the violence she was subjected to, Mary Patricia forged a trail of light to the intractable truth and burst open the doorway to her comprehension and ultimate resolution, and freedom to evolve into her soul’s true purpose.
Self talk fulfills its own destiny. A small shift in self talk will begin the journey to emotional and spiritual strength and wellness. Even seemingly trivial, positive self-messaging immediately infuses each cell of the body with emotional and physical warmth and directly nurtures the entire energy system. Continued positive self-messaging builds self love and personal power. Honoring personal efforts and successes—not out of superficial bravado borne of arrogance and insecurity—but out of humane compassion and the appreciation for intrinsic truth, victims of violence continue the process of walking out of the darkness and evolving into the undeniable light. They will discover, as Mary Patricia did, that using precise, descriptive terminology to describe what hides in the dark is an achievable act of self-support that will create order, stability, and control out of the chaos created by violence and its aftermath.
Beginning with small shifts, a victim of violence will begin the transformation from victim to survivor into a powerful life force.
Next time: THOUGHTS ARE THINGS