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Trauma:It’s Manageable BUT NOT Heal-able!

7/14/2014

 

By Philip Foley      

Trauma is manageable, but it is not heal-able. Here are four other things you should know about trauma:   

1. Trauma Is a Life Long injury. The first step is to recognize this fact. Just like an amputated leg will not grow back, there is an emotional part of a trauma victim that will never be restored to what it was before trauma. This damage dramatically alters the remainder of the victims life.

2. Emotional Freezing. A victim may emotional freeze at the point of the trauma. Trauma can short circuit the emotional development of a victim. They move forward with building their life unaware that this emotional freezing has taken place. It only becomes apparent if an event triggers a flash back. At that point a trauma victim may react in a way consistent with the age they were at the point of the trauma and not their present age.   

3. Resolution and management. Through hard work and commitment, victims will be able to identify how and by whom they were traumatized. They will have a greater understanding of how this trauma has impacted their life. This resolution will enable a victims to recognizes how trauma affects their life today and how it will affect their life in the future.   

Through this recognition a victim will come to understand that management strategies are needed for creating boundaries for moving forward with their personal, spiritual and emotional growth. 

4. Taking Charge of your life. As a victim develops a greater understanding of what was done to them, who did it and how society, culture and religious tenants obstruct their personal development, they will find it necessary to make life changes. A victim may find it necessity to sever or alter relationships with family members, friends and social and cultural organizations that they now understand are unhealthy. This action in not unlike a drug addict who has to stop associating with those people and places that threaten their commitment to sobriety.   

Through hard work and commitment, you can identify the trauma and how this trauma has impacted your life. You can recognize how trauma affects your life today and how it will affect your life in the future. Through this recognition, you'll see the need to create boundaries and establish strategies for moving forward with your personal, spiritual and emotional growth.



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    In the provocative spirit of Matilda Joslyn Gage, Gloria Anzaldua, and Mary Daly, Kathleen Hoy Foley expands and deepens the voice of female experience.

    Raw. Uncompromising. Compassionate. Deliberately antagonistic. Kathleen writes to awaken the courage within the reader.


    TO THE SURVIVOR
    If you are a person who was victimized as a child or as an adult, I am so very sorry you ever had to suffer at the hands of a predator. 

    I am sorry you were abused, sorry no one protected you, sorry you have felt so alone, sorry you have been so afraid then and in the now. I am so sorry for the loss of your innocence. 

    You were and are entitled to you life. And you had a right to inherit your own body. And no matter what you did or what you think you failed to do you are not to blame. Sexual abuse is never a victim's choice. Sexual abuse is something that was done to your body not something you wanted. 

    This is an excerpt from: 

    http://web.archive.org/web/20130101063123/http://true-perspective.org 

    Kathleen and I encourage you to visit this site for perspective on your ordeal. Live happy and whole. Claim you power! 

    You are your own authority.

    Question Everything.  Including social, religious & political authorities

    Learn to listen and respond to your intuition.  It is never wrong.

    Learn to be impolite.  It must be part of your defense system.

    Nothing is unspeakable.

    Stare truth in the eye and speak it.

    You name abuse.  Listen to your body.  It will tell you.  It is never wrong. 

    Stare abuse in the eye and speak it.

    Stare abusers in the eye and name them.

    Use your voice.  Use your words. 

    BE LOUD.  Violence against girls, boys, women and men hides in the silent shadows.

    Know that you are powerful.

    KNOW THAT YOUR VOICE IS POWERFUL.   USE IT.



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